On February 2, 2012, Rev. Steve Parelli spoke before the Assembly Judiciary Committee meeting in Trenton, NJ, in support of marriage equality.
The Rev. Parelli is the Executive Director of Other Sheep, an ecumenical Christian organization based in the Bronx that empowers gay people of faith worldwide. Since 2005, Parelli, along with his husband, has spoken in 16 countries in Latin America, Africa and Asia on the intersecting of religion and homophobia. In 2009, Rev. Parelli, having been defrocked by his Baptist denomination, received clergy credentials from the Metropolitan Community Church.
I am Reverend Steve Parelli.
My faith background is evangelical and Baptist. I
pastored the Faith Baptist Church of Sparta, NJ, for
about ten years before coming out in 1997 and starting,
at that time, a new life with my husband Mr. Jose Ortiz.
In the tradition of Roger Williams, Baptist founder of
Rhode Island and the author of religious freedom in
America, I would like to say this:
Concession and toleration are neither freedom nor
liberty. They are merely other names for oppression
because they are the allowance of that which is not
wholly approved.
So then, in terms of Baptist teaching: Civil Union with all
the “rights of marriage,” yet without the name of
“marriage,” is not freedom but a concession, is not liberty
but toleration; and therefore, Civil Union is but another
name for oppression.
In 2008, at the city hall of Sacramento, California, I
married the love of my life. As we left the building and
began walking down the street, I felt something I had
never – in my 42 years of recognizing myself as a gay
person – felt before: totally equal. I cannot tell you what
it is like all your teen and adult years to feel less than as
a human being. Jose and I had married with the need to
be sure we could care for each other legally. I had no
idea how impacting the marriage would be in terms of
feeling equal like any other adult who lives and loves and
marries. I felt like I was breathing in the American air for
the first time. Marriage, not Civil Union, gave me that
sense of equality and belonging.
Strange, that the state of California could give me, an
evangelical Baptist minister, what the church could not:
equality and belonging.
In the words of Albert Barnes, abolitionist and
Presbyterian minister “There is no power out of the
church that could sustain discrimination against
homosexuals for even an hour, if it were not sustained
within the church.”
Please ask yourself this: If I vote my conscience, will my
vote limit the free exercise of the conscience of others?*
You see, if you vote against marriage equality on the
basis of your religious values or on the basis of the
religious values of your constituents, then in effect you fail
to uphold my God-given right as a free moral agent to
determine for myself what God is or is not saying about
same-gender marriage, and you deny me my God-given
right to act in accord with those beliefs, and you confound
the role of the state with the role of the church.
Please, be the state (separate from the church), and
grant me my right** in matters of conscience, religious
freedom and civil liberties. Hear me as an American;
hear me as a Christian; hear me as a gay man. Vote
marriage equality.
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